All Lives Matter

My heart hurts for Missouri. My heart aches for those who believe their violent protests last night were justifiable. My heart hurts for America. It seems like no matter what we do these days, we are taking steps in the wrong direction.

As a Caucasian female, I can not look at any African American and say “I know how you feel”. I don’t, I won’t, and I never will. However, I can tell you that I took a semester-long African American Literature course at East Carolina University taught by Dr. Reginald Watson. This class was one of my absolute favorites my entire time there. Dr. Watson is a black man. But unlike so many civil rights advocates, he didn’t condone separation and distinction among “his people”. He said, “African American history is American history.” Being one of three white students in the entire class of 50, I was highly outnumbered. However, the discussions that we had during that time, most of which had the potential to be tense and touchy subjects, were amazing.

After the verdict was given last night, the protesting turned into a riot. When that happened, all the moments leading up to it, the peaceful protesting, the “cause” that so many marched and stood up for….it was all lost. Those protestors who were dissatisfied with the verdict sought vengeance for the seeming injustice to Mr. Brown’s life. But who did they really hurt? They didn’t hurt the prosecutor or members of the grand jury. No, they burned businesses, vehicles, and hurt those in the streets. The demographic make-up of Ferguson is 65% Black, 30% White. So who did they hurt? Themselves. Each other. Their cause.

Now, instead of having their voices heard and respected, people just focus on all the negatives acts they did. They proved the nay-sayers right. They became the statistic.

Many took to social media giving their support and using the hashtag #blacklivesmatter. This may outrage me more than anything I have seen so far. As a human services worker and Christian, I am over hear screaming ALL LIVES MATTER!!! All lives. Not just white or black. Not just male or female. Every life has the same opportunity for purpose in this life. No life matters any more than another.

I saw an old friend on Facebook say last night that she would be scared to have sons because she would be sending them into a society where the odds are against them because of their skin color. This person happens to be black. To that, I think, I could say the SAME thing about my sons. The odds are just regarding different things. Her son may be more likely to be shot, but my son will be more likely to be used as a scape-goat.

No crime is a victim-less crime. However, in some cases both sides will be victims.

We HAVE to stop this race issue. We have to. If we are ever going to be equal, we have to stop setting ourselves apart from others. The foundation of the civil rights movement was equality for those who were marginalized, which at the time was African Americans and women. It has since=e evolved into equality for all people, regardless of race, sex, able-bodiness, or sexual orientation. However, organizations such as the NAACP have a different agenda. The advancement of colored people. Yet again just choosing one group to be lifted up above the rest. To tip the scales in “their” direction. This is not going to produce equality.

The first step to equality is to stop identifying ourselves by our skin color.

However, before this even happens we have to ask the question….do you really want equality? True equality?

Personally, I think not. I can promise you that I don’t want to be equal in all ways. As a woman, I am allowed certain privileges that men are not. I also receive certain negative effects. This is the way it works when we are not equal. For example, as a woman, I don’t have to sign up for the draft. This guarantees me that I will never be forced by our country to go into combat against my will and risk my life for those in America if I don’t want to. To me, that is a blessing. On the other hand, I will earn an average of $0.78 for every $1.00 that a man makes doing the same job. And to me, my freedom of choice is worth 22 cent.

Historically there has been such thing as a white privilege. I can not dispute that this is true. It absolutely is. However, because of my ancestor’s race (something which I have no choice or control over) I do not qualify for any type of minority scholarship. I am not considered an asset to the quota that many major companies have to meet when hiring employees. My children may not receive certain services because they will not have the increased risk factor score, solely because they are white. I get punished for being white. And that’s fine with me, because that’s how God made me and I am doing my best at living the life I was given. I will pay full tuition costs to go to undergraduate and now graduate school. I may fail to get the job of my dreams because I don’t fit their criteria. And you won’t hear me complaining.

So ask yourself, do you really want equality?

If so, racial information should not be gathered or considered on any application in America. Not for college, subsidy programs, job applications….nothing. Because in equality, race doesn’t matter. Merit matters. May the person with the best qualifications for the position get the job. May the student who has worked hardest get the first spot in their choice college. THAT would be equality.

Yes, equality in our country would be grand. However, it would cause a major shift in our system. Everyone would have to work hard to get what they want. Everyone would have to work. Because if they didn’t, their group would be underrepresented in functioning society. By default, they would be getting the short end of the stick.

Let’s stop with the excuses. Let’s end the blame game.

Today and tomorrow let’s remember that all lives matter.


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