Human Worth

How do you put a price on someone’s life? To actually be able to see how much an individual is worth? Is it by the amount of money they make (their net worth), the amount of positive change they have brought to the world (humanitarianism), how many lives they have saved (a hero), how much they mean to those closest to them (a loved one), or simply the price someone will pay to have them as their property (a slave)?

I remember times throughout middle and high school when we would read a book with the topic of death and the teacher would ask us to do an exercise and rank which person we would keep or kill from the story or boat or island; and then justify it to the class. What an odd thing for a 13 year old girl to do. But yet, here at 24, I still find myself and those around me, weighing the cost of a life every day.

Did you know it costs $245,340 to raise a child from 0-18 in America (Thomas, 2014)? And if, by chance, your child enters the prison system, you (as a taxpayer) will continue to pay $167,731 per year to house and care for your child (Associated Press, 2013).

Did you know that children who are being sold by human trafficers can be purchased anywhere from $2 to $25,000 per child, depending if you want a little girl from Mozambique or a kid from the UK (Havocscope, n.d.)? Imagine, buying a child…a little human life…for only $2. When compared to a British child, that little girl’s life isn’t worth much.

Furthermore, it costs on average around $3,500 to have a hospital birth in America (Fetters, n.d.). However, the drugs for lethal injection only cost around $100 (Erb, 2014).

Then there are those groups in society that don’t value based on money, but on merit. Doctors and lawyers and engineers are more valuable and important than garbage-truck guys. And I won’t deny, those people are vital and necessary….but so is the garbage guy. Just think…if the 8.1 million people who call NYC home did not have their trash picked up for even a few weeks, what a mess there would be!!! You see, each person on this Earth has a purpose and role to play. The Bible tells us in Psalm 139 that God knew you in your mother’s womb and formed every aspect of you before you even breathed a breath. You are fearfully and wonderfully made! Yet, there are those people around you who live their life putting a price on your head.

In my studies for therapy I have spent a lot of hours both reading about and interacting with those with mental health. I worked for 3 years in an acute-care hospital, surrounded mainly by elderly and dying patients. I’ve watched friends and family enlist in the military to fight for our country and freedom…knowing it is quite possible they won’t make it out alive. I’ve encountered educators who have changed my life, and strangers who have changed my way of thinking. Each and every single one of these people are important.

I was born in the most wonderful country on Earth, to two loving parents, in a neighborhood surrounded by good people. I am white, female, educated, and Christian. I could not be more privileged.

That being said, I can never know how it feels to be another person. Of a different race or circumstance. I don’t know what it’s like to be you, and you don’t know what it’s like to be me. Regardless of our spot on the ladder, there are struggles and difficulties. But I can tell you one thing…all lives matter.

Black lives, white lives, Asian and Hispanic lives, police lives, criminal lives, mentally-ill lives, elderly lives, abused lives, abuser lives, homeless lives, wealthy lives, child lives….they matter.

And you know why these lives matter? Because they exist.

The violence and divide that has plagued our America for too long is getting worse, not better. Those who break a law are being killed over a small misdemeanor charge. Police are scared to do their jobs, for fear of backlash from the public and private sector. What does that say about us, as a nation? What does that say about you, as a person?

Pastor Rudy Rasmus says, “You can never remain unchanged by your circumstances. Everything you encounter affects you, either for the good or the bad.” You play a role in this world. You may not live in Ferguson or Baltimore or Atlanta or any other place of violence…but you are making a difference there.

You see, Pastor Rasmus says something else…he says, “those who see themselves as fellow travelers on the road of seeking God have the greatest impact on people.” This could mean you. People around America are thirsting for a leader…a positive role model who is open and honest and has a heart for the people. Our country is full of those who are manipulative and conniving with a hidden agenda.

Be different to make a difference. Just take the time to do so, and I promise you will see results. That’s what Jesus did, and that’s what we are called to do. When Jesus called out to Peter and Peter jumped right out and attempted to walk on water….he wasn’t very successful. However, Jesus saved him simply by extending a hand. It has been said, “Jesus created the entire universe with a word. Certainly, He could have simply spoken and rescued sinking Peter. In His dealings with people, however, He often chose to touch them.” Have you ever truly thought about that? Jesus touched him, and that simple act saved Peter’s life. Maybe your touch could do the same.

Violence and protest and discourse has become common-place in our world. However, we can’t allow the frequency to determine our reaction. There is a song by Jack Johnson with lyrics that say, “Why don’t the newscasters cry when they read about people who die? You’d think they could be decent enough to put just a tear in their eye.” Yet we have all become numb to the needs around us. We don’t allow the needs we see on television, or even the needs we hear about around our family dinner table, to touch our hearts.

Today, and every day, we need to practice valuing our neighbor….regardless of who that may be. When Jesus commands us to love our neighbor, he doesn’t let you pick and choose. All neighbors, close to home and across town. And if we will just extend that love to others that Jesus shows to us, we can’t help but scream ALL LIVES MATTER!

References

Associated Press. (2013). NYC’s yearly cost per inmate almost as expensive as Ivy League tuition. Retrieved from http://www.foxnews.com/us/2013/09/30/nyc-cost-per-inmate-almost-equals-ivy-league-education-expenses-tied-to-rikers/

Erb, K. (2014). Considering the death penalty: Your tax dollars at work. Retrieved from http://www.forbes.com/sites/kellyphillipserb/2014/05/01/considering-the-death-penalty-your-tax-dollars-at-work/

Fetters, A. (n.d.). What to expect: Hospital birth costs. Retrieved from http://www.parents.com/pregnancy/considering-baby/financing-family/birth-hospital-costs/

Havocscope. (n.d.). Human trafficking victim prices. Retrieved from http://www.havocscope.com/black-market-prices/human-trafficking-prices/

Thomas, E. (2014). This is how much it costs to raise a child in the U.S. Retrieved from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/18/cost-of-raising-a-child_n_5688179.html

Overwhelmed?

Man, what a whirlwind life I seem to be living! For this season I feel like I am in a constant head-above-water battle, but I know that as all things do, this too shall pass. Since writing last I have experienced emotions of sheer joy, relief, anxiety, worry, anticipation, and happiness.

Over the span of 3 months Aaron and I have reunited with estranged family members, got engaged, got in a wreck and totaled his truck, watched our dog have puppies, began the planning for remodeling our future home, dealt with the looming threat of me being unable to have children, and been involved in court proceedings to help ensure our niece remains in a thriving environment. Put that on top of me personally playing the piano at church every week, about to finish grad school in a few weeks, beginning my internship, maintaining my “real” job, planning a wedding, helping friends with babies and showers and moving…

It’s a lot. And I will admit, while I am living it, it seems like normal because it is my life. But writing it all down, no wonder I feel tired in the mornings!

I often wonder why I don’t feel overwhelmed. Tired, extremely, but rarely overwhelmed.

I truly believe that my main source of strength and perseverance comes from God. Aaron and I have been reading Rick Warren’s Purpose Driven Life. We are truly living our life, the best we can, according to God’s Word. And it’s showing throughout our lives. As Perry Noble says, “As our view of God increases, our worry and stress decrease, because it’s only then that we begin to believe that all the things that are over our heads are under His feet.”

Perry Noble also points out some key ways of thinking that create such overwhelming feelings. I’ll outline some for you here.

Thinking you are in control. I don’t believe there is ever a time that God laughs harder at you than when you kid yourself into thinking you have complete control over your life and the things around you. It says in Proverbs 19:21 “You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.”

Thinking things are totally out of your control. If you are a Christian, and you were born after Christ died on the cross, you have the Holy Spirit living inside you. This Spirit could be characterized as many things such as your conscience or the angel on your shoulder but ultimately, it is God inside your body giving you the power of discernment and courage to overcome trials of the world. The Bible says in 1 John 4:4, “You belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world.” We have the power to relax and let go of our worldly troubles if we just choose to do so!

Expecting to live an easy life surrounded by good people. Because we live in a fallen world, the world is full of fallen people. We are not much unlike these people, as we all sin every day. However, even if we surround ourselves with people who are only good, Christians and go to church every time the doors open and pray religiously….the world around us is still fallen, and we are guaranteed to feel the effects. Perry Noble says, “When we meet Christ, we are saved from the penalty of sin, but we do not escape the effects of sin – whether that’s our own or other people’s sin or simply the broken world we live in.” No matter how good we try to be, we will still feel the backlash effects of sin.

Expecting to have the energy and time to do it all. I once heard a professor say, “The Bible calls those who will not work lazy, but it calls those who will not rest disobedient.” Wow. Self-care is truly important. In your profession and your personal life. There is no way one person can do everything there is to do. We must learn to let go of some things and delegate them to others.

Accepting sin as a way of life. Now I am just as guilty of this as the next person, but it’s true. We are contributing to our negative feelings by not omitting the sin in our life and just dismissing it. Perry Noble says, “In today’s culture, the temptation is to look at sins and refer to them as issues, mistakes, or problems. And as long as we see sin as something that we need to learn to cope with rather than something that needs to be removed, we will never take the cation necessary to peel the cap off the bottle so we can be spiritually refreshed.” He makes a good and valid point. Some things we are unwilling and reluctant to give up, but we may be amazed at how much more at peace we would be if we did so.

We refuse to forgive others. Another hard one. Maybe the hardest. I’m a grudge-holder by nature. But what I have come to learn is that my “nature” doesn’t matter because I am in Christ and should put Him on display each day. There are those who say, “if that person would just apologize I would forgive them”. And yeah, that’s nice when it happens. But that’s not the example that was set before us. Jesus is our example. and the people who were murdering Him never even asked for forgiveness…He just gave it to them. The example for us is that we must forgive freely – even to those who don’t deserve it. We can’t put stipulations on forgiveness and keep score of rights and wrongs. That’s not up to me. I’m going to be a therapist, not a judge. Besides the fact that not forgiving breaks up families and causes strife, it also is just stressful keeping tabs on all those tally marks for each side! LET IT GO!!!! Please. For your own sake.

We try to force love on others and on ourselves. Love is strong. And it’s a strong action, not an emotion like we’ve been taught. Love is doing, actively pursuing, proving day in and day out the commitment to the other person. Perry Noble says, “Love is determined by what we’re willing to seek out and what we’re willing to sacrifice for.” Knowing that, also know that God loves you. And his love and grace are sufficient. You need no one else’s. It’s nice to have. It makes life more enjoyable. But it’s not necessary. Don’t try to push love on those who don’t want it. Just lay it out there for them to pick up. It’s not hard, though it is work. It should be one of the most awesome jobs you have, loving others.

We expect instant gratification. Guilty! I want it, and I want it now! Yes, please. NOW! Though that’s my thought process most of the time, God laughs again. We must be vigilant, persistent, and enduring on our quest and towards our goals. That shows dedication and love. The Bible gives us one for this in Galations 6:9, “Let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” Good is coming, but it may not be today. Rest in that knowledge.

Ultimately, these things are all things I have or continue to struggle with. Overwhelming feelings come and go. However, if we refuse to allow our circumstances to shape what we believe about God, we will walk in freedom from fear, knowing that the One who holds tomorrow is good and is in complete control. In writing this post I have utilized Perry Noble’s book Overwhelmed a lot. I encourage you to read it!

Also, please be in prayer for me and my family. We have been going through a lot and are still waiting on answers and concreteness of things. Pray that God’s will be done in all areas of our lives and that his healing hands will be upon my body. Love to you all!